this tuesday have just been one of those days.....when nothing goes as planned, you're tired, your head hurts, your toddler won't listen, she won't share with her friends, your condo is hot, your baby won't nap, then the toddler gets a runny faucet nose and doesn't understand not to rub it all over the house and said baby, toddler won't go to sleep for bed till 9, baby later than that, hubby at school after work for final exam, you can't make that phone call you promised to a dear friend that's going through some hard times, you've hardly had dinner and can't drink booze because your breastfeeding, the email inbox is overflowing and there's no time for mom to do her link luv roundup because she is so friggin exhausted. that was my day. can anybody else out there relate?
so here's some pics of the culprits, my adorable girls. i have to say, i was ready for a big ol'rant when i sat down to write this but just looking at these made me feel ten times better. it feels as though it's been a long summer, a lot of good, but also a lot of new adjustments for the whole family. looking at these made me feel truly blessed and so very thankful for my girls and the hubs (luv you). but that aside, we all have those crappy mom days when we are mortified that there is a fly on the wall who is going to whisper all your secrets about those "not so proud" mommy moments we all have. i had a few today. but i'm off to bed, as i schedule this post, to try to erase some of those moments and to curl up with some good ol'project runway reruns to ease the inner bi*ch in me :)
have you been having any bad mommy days lately? let's all make each other feel better. i know there are a lot of you out there that are single moms, or moms who's hubbies are away, overseas, working a lot and not home (mine) and it always makes me feel better when we can all give each other a little pick me up and some support to get through "one of those days".
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That is so normal........ every mom went through it at least once..... and it is ok to complain..... because some days are extremely hard.... my babies are grown up now (23 and 22 years old) but i remember days like yours... Enjoy the good ones...... and the bad ones too.
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I completely understand. I have 3 children. Last summer, my youngest was an infant like yours. It does make for a hard summer. Next summer will be a tiny bit easier (I'm not going to lie...there are new challenges!). Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteIt does get easier Shannon! Really. Last summer with three kids, one being not yet a year, I felt like I never got out of the house or was able to do anything. This summer is better, and next summer will be even better. At least I hope so. And I have "those days" regularly. The ones where you scream so loudly that you don't even sound like a woman, more like a monster. The ones where you just hope your husband doesn't have a hidden camera taping your every move because if he did he might leave you. I know them, but thankfully the good days outnumber the bad and we have each other to lean on!
ReplyDeleteI have definately had those not so proud mommy moments. My favorite trick to use when Im feeling that way is to hop into the car (20 min process) and head to Mc Donalds were we get an ice coffee and juice boxes. We drive around town looking for cows, well that's what the kids are doing. Im driving around searching for strength to make it through the day. I look for the beauty in nature and the small things that matter most in my life. These rides always bring me back to what is most important in life, those 3 little ones in my rear view mirror! Sending you a big hug, you are not alone!!! Oh, I love your posts, if I could only write as well as you do! Your amazing!
ReplyDeleteyou are not alone! (some times that's all you need to hear) but in case you need more...
ReplyDeletepicture this - Mom with 7 month old in arms and 3 year old waiting for a computer in the library after story time (the story time that he already opened the fire exit door and set off the alarm while the librarian was reading) Mom walks away to get a book for son to read while waiting and turns around to see her son with his pants and underpants down by his ankles!
We all have terrible days and the good part is that we can go to sleep and then get another chance at it the next day. Hoping you find a chuckle in my bad day and a smile in knowing that it will be better tomorrow!
here is my day
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Uggh, I have them constantly. I have chronic fatigue, so I am always so freaking tired, and my son is a young teenager so he gets ornery and some days, we just need to be in separate rooms! Just remember that you are doing great, your kids are absolutely beautiful/darling, and to not be too hard on yourself.
ReplyDeleteOh yes! Saturday was my horrid day I think I get at least one a month...if not two! Even as the day went by I was thinking about how witchy I was being.
ReplyDeleteOur summer has been unseasonably cool but the sun has been out. On days like that I send my boys outside to play for the day. Expect this Saturday all they wanted to play with was the front door, opening and closing it to tell me who hit/bit/sat on/bother who. While the other little were supposed to take a nap...haha 1 hr of sleep is not enough for either toddler or baby.
So I did what any sane mother would...put in a movie for the olders and drooled over etsy & ravelry with baby drooling in my lap. Once the movie was over I locked them out of the house (not entirely true, one door was unlocked they just had farther to walk to get back in).
Hope your day goes much better!
OH, I can sooo relate! (I've got 8 kiddos, ranging in age from 1 1/2 to 23)
ReplyDeleteSleep is a miracle worker (part of the miracle being - actually getting some...)
Hang in there, Sweetie!
Quick Question - what camera do you use? thanks!
oh gosh, yes. i have a four year old and two year old twins. i pretty much had those days everyday for a year!! i would cry myself to sleep while trying to keep them from crying!! i totally understand. it definitely gets better!!! everyday is better, and makes you feel like you have a little more hold on it than the next. and some people drive around...i dive right into my pantry...probably not the best idea but it works for me...
ReplyDeleteThis was my morning yesterday and my evening the day before! And ALL OF JULY!!!
ReplyDeleteIT does feel therapeutic to realize my least proud moments when my inner *&%$^ comes out aren't mine alone. My mom won't share details but she often asks me if I remember her moments from our childhood. Then she smiles knowingly.
And it's so affirming to hear this from another mama blogger with two little ones and a hard working husband. Thanks for sharing it all!
We've all been there and yet that never seems to make you feel any better in the moment, does it?
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you had such a hard mommy day.
I think this is the first time I've commented on your blog. I found it last week and suscribed... just wanted to say hi :-)
Hopefully Wednesday is better for you and me both!
I think Tuesday was like that for everyone. My day was crappy like that too! My 2 and 4 year old bickered all. day. long. It drives me crazy!
ReplyDeleteToday my 2 year old has been throwing up with diarrhea, so luckily the 4 year old and the 8 mo old can go to daycare.
To top it all off, today is the first day of the last semester of grad school for me! I'm glad that I'm almost done but I'm so not motivated to start classes again!
My little on was in a bad mood yesterday I couldn't put him down a second without him fussing. We definitely have to encourage each other! Love the blog
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I hear you - I'm there this summer. My husband works 60-70 hour weeks, so I'm pretty much a single mom except the weekends. I have a 20 month old boy and a 6 month old girl. It is hard! Plus we live on the third floor, so you can imagine how infrequent we go anywhere! My toddler now climbs onto everything, and I have almost no safe place left to put down a thing. Everytime I leave the room to do something, I have to make sure the coffee goes with me, my knitting is put high away, etc...
ReplyDeleteSome days all I want to do is get drunk, but I've never been drunk in my life and really don't want to start now!!
This time will pass, and we will look back on it and feel like it was a blink of the eye!
I am still in the apt. I lived in with my best friend when we were single. We used to sit in her bedroom and cry together, thinking we would never find the right guy, get married, have kids. Now, just three years later, her bedroom is my living room, and she comes over with her toddler, her big pregnant belly, and we sit there and laugh together. Time passes, and most things work out for our good!
i just wanted to share with you what my pastor said when i asked him about missing Holy Mass as am outside the church with a toddler who wants to go walkies instead....am sure it applies to all mums who are doing the best they can in the best possible way they know
ReplyDelete"So many saints and wise people who say so many wonderful things about the Mass. That’s great. But you beat them all. Just being there for your little angel means that you’re making the greatest sacrifice, investing in the greatest joy, worshipping the Author of all life, finding meaning in all suffering and joining Jesus in thanksgiving for revealing the greatest of mysteries to the little ones and hiding them form the wise! God bless you and keep it up. Your purgatory will be the shorter for having lived it so often here and now!"
I so totally understand! :D I have a 10 1/2 mo. old, and care for a 20 mo. old every day, and TODAY seems to be one of those days, LOL! I have had: a bar of soap being rubbed, smooshed, and "shared" on everything that happened to be in the path between the bathroom and living room (including the 10 mo. old!), the neatly piled (folded and put away seems to only happen in my dreams these days!) laundry- along with all the baby hangers in the house- strewn across the entire living room, children who are not-so-stable yet falling on top of each other repeatedly, screeching (on both parts) when the other takes a beloved toy away, the little one somehow falling on her nose (literally- ouch!) while I was busy cleaning up the above mentioned soap mess and it's culprit, and so on and so forth. :D Gotta love it!
ReplyDeleteOh Shannon.
ReplyDeleteI hear you! I won't go into details but believe me I understand. Wish I could be your neighbor and hop over there to give you a big hug. You deserve it! I always say you have to have the hard days to appreciate the magical ones.
Luv you!
Ok, you guys all seriously rock. I luv you all. Thank you so much for your kind words, it really helped. Today hasn't been much better but at the same time it has because i know I'm not alone. Your comments made me laugh & cry, so thank you. I emailed a whole bunch of you but for the rest of you that commented (blogger wouldn't let me email you directly from my inbox) "thanks"! I appreciate you taking the time to share and to reach out. I think it's what makes this blogging world so fabulous. When we are all having bad mommy days or feeling alone & frusterated we can remember that we all have each other. Different countries, different cities - doesn't matter. We're all neighbours in one way or another. My morning coffee was much more fun sharing it with all of you :) Big, giant hugs to all of you.
ReplyDeleteShannon OH MY GOSH YES! Totally had a week of those days - really feel for you honey!
ReplyDeleteLet me see I have a toddler with a cold (and potty training), Buddy is teething and starting solids, and i'm desperately trying to finish off the fall samples to send off for lookbook stuff, and make everyone outfits for my SILs wedding.
But like you the exact same thing happens - all the frustration and tiredness melts away when I look in my kids smiling faces. And these photos are just precious!
Very tired.
ps.I'm going to make an extra cup of coffee this arvo (and drink it on your behalf hehe)
pps. you rock
I have definitely had a few of those experiences before and am sure to have them in the future. When life gets really crazy I remember a quote I found on the bottom of a Dove Chocolate (chocolate to the rescue again!): "A bubble bath can be worth more than a clean kitchen".
ReplyDeleteI only have one little man who will be 7 end of October. But I can tell you my day was today! I woke up with a sore throat and a massive fight to start the day! Which of course makes for an awful day at work where the body ache set in and right now I'm only at the computer cuz I'm sitting still. Just a doozie is all I can say. There is more but you all have listened to enough of my babble. LOL
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Hello lack of sleep/rest time.
ReplyDeleteOk, my 25month old and 6 month old are now sharing a room. Day time naps together have been a NO GO because toddler likes to roam around the room and climb up on the edge of the cot to chat to sister.
Yesterday I spent 2.5hrs (YES) going back and forth putting her back in her bed til she eventually fell asleep... (super nanny advice).. but man I was at boiling point. I need some rest during the day.. because toddler is just grumpy and a PAIN if she doesnt rest/nap.
I have 5 blocks of chocolate and some home made choc chip cookies to get me through.... (btw, I have 3 blocks left)...
Ok, and I am breastfeeding too... some nights I NEED A DRINK.... I dont think one drink is going to hurt... just have it after bubba's feed... and then drink lots of water to help with that woozy-i-havent-had-a-drink-in-months feeling. hehe.
Better go and put naughty child back on her bed! SIGH.
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If we didnt have those 'i-wanna-pull-my-hair-out-and-run-to-the-nearest-bar' days, we'd be "Stepford Wives". I think we get lost in being "mommy" and "wife" and forget that we are still vibrant, smart, sexual beings. It's finding that balance and realizing we can be both that is the challenging part. I say...Yay!-we can do it! :)
ReplyDeleteOH Shan.
ReplyDeleteI missed this yesterday.:(
I want you to know nothing your todlder does or doesn't do will make me love you or her any less. I will still come over! One day they will share perfectly.... and then we have to start over teaching the next two lol. But really it was nothing.
I LOVE Jenny's post(the 1st one)...I too scream like a monster :S SIGH and wonder yes what my hubby would think if he saw my every move every word...every time I turn on the TV for them... :S
We DO all have bad days. We all yell or get madder then we would like. But we are all human. Our little ones won't remember..and if they do they will forgive! I always say sorry to Josh after I yell..I feel terrible...and yes some days I feel like the worst Mom ever... but
YOU ARE NOT
and
I AM NOT!
we are just human.
tomorrow will be a better day. the issues we have today will change. and one day...oh one day...we will sleep again!
HUGS
Krystal
shannon!!! these pictures are just so perfect, I couldn't hardly read the words I just wanted to enjoy the pics. :) Sorry you had a hard day, I can totally relate, yesterday I just had the roughest day, but today is better and I'm moving on. I know what you mean about being exhausted. My youngest went through a 4 month period of waking up every hour or half hour at night needing my attention, it was ROUGH!!! I'll never forget it.
ReplyDeleteAwww. Hope you feel better. We all have one of those days.
ReplyDeleteAnd I would agree with you that when you look at your children at the end of the day, somehow you end up feeling a lot better (even if they act up!). It is the sacrifice that we make for being moms (put up with our children).
Your girls are beautiful :).